In love on January 2, 2012 at 8:27 pm

To Judith Anne Graham

When we were young and thought we knew what life was all about,
We did not need, nor seek, nor take, advice about our doubts.
For that was weak, and we were strong, filled with courage, hope, and pride.
Until we met the one, and only one, who touched us deep inside.

My heart would stop, then skip a beat, when you were in the room.
I pretended not to see, turned away, as you passed through.
Then a stolen, secret glance, next a meeting thought by chance,
You intended not to be in love with me — already in your own romance.

Do you remember when I said,
I love you for your mind, your head,
Your brain, the inner beauty that is you?

You smiled, laughed, teased me, too,
for admiring your mind before loving you.

I remember when I was ten, and loved the girl next door, back then,
When life was simple, full of fun, and a girl was just a friend.
I remember as a teen, I loved a girl, lived down the street.
But neither one could cause my heart to stop and skip a beat.

When first we met we talked all night, you on one side, I the other,
A locked screen door between us. In our minds, already lovers.
Paths intertwined from years before we find each other, and discover,
Each was never far, not knowing yet always knew, there was another.

I remember when you said,
How you dread
To tell your father you love me.

But he saw the change in you,
loved you. Therefore loved me, too.

My early years were hard to share, were filled with problematic fears,
And inconsistencies with truth, causing untold failures, masked by tears.
The middle years were not much more,’til the day you touched my hand,
looked deep within my soul, smiled, and said, “I finally understand.”

“Your heart is burdened with your past, an empty hole, needs love that lasts.
Together, we will end your pain, close the hole, let go the past.”
Then your heart stopped, skipped a beat, awakened love from deep sleep,
And I remember then, I gave my heart to you, to have, to hold, to keep.

From Tad Laury Graham
Merry Chrismas, 2009


If a Tree Falls …

In Meaning of Life on June 11, 2011 at 3:54 pm

George Berkley did not go far enough. He only asked the question, if a tree falls in the forest, but no one is around to hear it, did it really happen? Consider the following. If vision is severely limited to one narrow band of the electromagnetic spectrum, then it is at least possible that things exist which we do not see.

It is even possible that the same characteristics of those things which we do not see determine that we cannot touch them or feel their presence. Perhaps we pass through them with little or no resistance for if we do not see them, they may even appear as ghosts to the more developed eye.

Ghosts are seen to pass through objects, and the same phenomenon may help to explain ghostly sightings.

Copyright © 2011 by Tad Laury Graham

Original version written in 1974.

Weinergate! Another Perspective

In Politics on June 6, 2011 at 6:16 pm

Anthony Weiner is just one more distraction from the real problems we face as a nation. It may or may not be appropriate to put him through public humiliation for his “failure of character,” but before we go too far in committing to a course of action, lets consider what we might want as the desired outcome of this never-ending stream of human foibles.

Consider the following:

  • Thomas Jefferson (President 1801-1809) allegedly had an affair with his slave, Sally Hemings
  •  Grover Cleveland (President 1885-1889, 1893-1897) alleged to have fathered illegitimate child
  • Warren Harding (President 1921-1923) alleged affair with Carrie Phillips and Nan Britton
  • Franklin Roosevelt (President 1933-1945) alleged affair with Lucy Mercer—The man who guided us through the Great Depression and World War II
  • Dwight D Eisenhower (President 1953-1961) tried to end clandestine warfare, i.e., the “Cold War,” sought to establish honesty and morality in his administration; alleged affair with Kay Summersby (his chauffeur)
  • John F Kennedy (President 1961-1963) tried to dismantle the CIA and end organized crime; Created the space race; alleged affairs with Marilyn Monroe and Judith Exner
  • Lyndon B Johnson (President 1963-1969) pushed most of JFK’s program through Congress; unidentified affair alleged
  • George Bush Senior (President 1989-1993) alleged with Jennifer Fitzgerald
  • Bill Clinton (President 1993-2001) restored healthy economy; alleged affair with Monica Lewinsky

Each of these former presidents has something in common with Mr. Weiner: Had we drummed even one of them out of Government for behaving badly, history would have been quite different, not to mention the setting of, or reinforcement of, a precedent that moves us one step closer to the loss of certain “inalienable rights.” Despite what we may think is a flaw in his character, he seems to have some impressive company.

It appears that Mr Weiner has broken no laws (this may change, but presumably a change would result in less of a circus and more of a judicial process); He doesn’t appear to have lied about his experience, qualifications, or performance; in fact his constituents seem to hold him in high regard. (It is true he did lie about his predicament for 10 days, but how many of us would not try to lie our way out of the biggest mistake we ever made in our lives?

As for the nebulous connection between character and morality, this country was established as a nation of laws. Morality is an opinion, often based on religious beliefs and  sometimes codified in the law (wherein lies the confusion). In an ideal world, Mr Weiner would have to commit a felony before it became anybody’s business outside his immediate family. It seems that voters are, in general, more aware of this fact than are their elected representatives. The magic word is still jobs, not weiners.