Still Alive and Kicking—Update on the Author

In Meaning of Life on May 14, 2009 at 3:11 am

It’s been a while since my last blog, and in the world of blogging there probably is no excuse for not keeping in touch … after all, a blog can be as long or as short as we want to make it. It can be on any subject.  It can be informal as well as formal. It doesn’t even have to be well-structured, coherent, or in any way make sense. What could be easier?

Not that it’s an excuse, but I think a lot more and do a lot less these days. Partly a health issue; partly that it is easier than trying to have directed, logical thoughts. Sometimes you mine nuggets; sometimes you end up with trash. It’s just the way life is. But always you find ways to participate, to be part of life. It’s what we are.

Day dreaming passes for “thinking” for most of us. We call it “lost in thought,” but we usually mean that stream-of-conscious, disconnected quasi-logical thought pattern which is pure escapism. Probably best kept private because most of it is of a personal nature and would put the average voyeur to sleep. It’s more-or-less an unwritten agreement, perhaps even a law, not to confess.

Besides the lack of entertainment value, there is always the risk of becoming maudlin and dumping on friends, who by the way are having the same issues and problems in dealing with their own lives (which they don’t dump on me). Yes, better left unsaid, better to be alone in our thoughts so the next time we meet, we can both answer, “fine, everything is fine,” thereby maintaining some sense of not being the victim, but of having some control over random attempts of life to victimize it’s participants.

As is often said, “don’t take any of this too seriously because we will never get out of this alive.”  Know that no matter how it seems, you are not actually alone. There are billions of human lives all over the planet, and in some trivial way, our lives are connected.  Call it the “collective unconscious” (Carl Jung), or the “transcendental oversoul” (Ralph Waldo Emerson), or “the force” (Stephen Spielberg). It doesn’t much matter.

The only thing that matters is that being connected provides strength when needed to pursue the dreams we have—regardless of how we personally define those dreams, and of whether or not we ever fully attain them. I was here, I did what I could, and what I did was good enough.

Copyright © 2009 by Tad Laury Graham

  1. enjoyed your writings, you are creating your circle in life, sounds as though you are near oneness in spirit. i dont understand dumping on this does not compute LOL best of health PEACE

    • Dear Will Forbes –

      I was pleasantly surprised this evening to hear from you. You sound upbeat, full of life, and ready to give PD a run for it. A lot can happen in the years to come, but it means nothing if we sit on the sidelines and watch it go by. How we look at things affects everything from who we are to the meaning of life. You seem to know that already, and I don’t mean to preach, but I am so happy that you are O.K. If I can help, please let me know.

      — Your Friend, Graham

    • “Dumping on,” also expressed as “unloading on,” is American slang for telling someone all of your problems in an effort to get them to solve them for you.

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